America's Dream Coach

3. Your Doubter can provide a list of obstacles based on its fears and concerns. The Dream Coach rule is, wherever there’s an obstacle, design a strategy to manage it. Make a list of your obstacles and identify which ones are negative self-perceptions or beliefs and which ones require strategies. The first step in managing fear is to identify exactly what you are afraid if. Just saying, “I’m afraid,” can be a whitewash and keep you stuck. Identify what you fear.

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2. As you connect to your dreams, you’ll often run into the voice of your “Doubter.” We might ignore or obsess over this because it tells us everything that might go wrong. Left unattended, this voice can be disruptive. But turn the Doubter down and it becomes the voice of the “Realist,” who primarily wants to know what you are planning, usually related to time and money issues. Early on, you may not have all the details figured out, which is why going to strategy too soon can actually hinder or limit your dream. Interview your Doubter and be curious. Capture its needs, insights and wisdom.

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As you get closer to fulfilling your dreams, don’t be surprised if doubt and fear surface. The number one way we sabotage our dreams is by saying things like, “But, what if?” and imagining the worst. But, what if I . . . fail, succeed, say or do the wrong thing, don’t make enough money?

With this thinking, as you move toward your dream, you’ll also move toward your fears and worst nightmares. With too much to risk, most of us give up or never even begin. Here are six ways to overcome fear:

1. If you feel indecisive, this can help. Draw a line across the center of a piece of paper. On the top, write your dream in as much detail as possible. On the bottom, write out your reality (about this dream) including your fears, doubts and “but, what ifs”.

Are you more committed to your dream or to your fear?

Two things will cause you to be more committed to your fear. The first is if you don’t have a clearly defined dream. The second is if you project your worst fears into your dream, you’ll choose reality because it’s safer. But when fear is placed in its proper place, as part of reality, it's easier to be more committed to your vision and fear simply becomes something to manage.

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If you are starting to think about your New Year’s resolutions, or perhaps have already blown them, I have a better solution. This year, why not go for your dreams? Do you dream of doing less and having more? Would you like to be more successful and less stressed out? How about being healthier or in better shape? Do you want more quality time with friends and family? A new job, more passion, more money, greater ease? How about more fun? These are all great dreams and probably have far more chance of happening than your resolutions.

Why don’t resolutions work or typically last very long? Consider this. Your dreams and desires have more power than your doubts and dislikes, so it’s easier to move towards what you want, then it is to get rid of or move away from what you don’t want. Getting a healthier more vibrant body will be easier than losing weight. Building a successful business is more exciting than getting rid of debt.

Meet me here twice a week, take a little time to dream, and let me guide you to reconnect to your passion and to what really matters to you. Explore how you want the next year of your life to be and get inspired to make something big happen!

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